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What is the appropriate, rational response...
Posted 09-13-2008 at 03:42 AM by Andrew NDB
What is the appropriate, rational response... when you find your girlfriend is covertly flirting with some dude over E-mail? Like, one of her co-workers?
Nothing TOO suggestive, mind you (nothing like "Let's go meet up and y'know"), but plenty of wink winks and "Hey, girl"s and flirty banter... and as a dude you know EXACTLY what the dude is trying to fandangle there. Even some talk about setting her up a special Hotmail account (that obviously her and I wouldn't be sharing, or I would supposed to be knowing about) so they could talk further over MSN Messenger. More on the matter... she knows I routinely check her E-mail (and tells me to) because it's the E-mail that we routinely receive pictures from our first child that we put up for adoption 4 years ago there. OK? Since the account is tied to her MySpace, anyone with MySpace knows you get little E-mails from MySpace every time someone sends you a message. So there's plenty of those in there, yes? From her galpals, all of them -- except for this one dude in question. Today I noticed she received two MySpace alerts about this dude sending her messages on MySpace, just some random name and I paid it no thought. Later on the same day... while I'm at work and she's at home, I notice these same message alerts have been skillfully deleted by her. From the trashbin, everything, the whole nine yards... which wouldn't be unusual, except for the fact that she hasn't and doesn't ever delete the message reminders from all of her other friends on MySpace.
You see the picture I'm painting? Nothing specifically cheaterish, nothing even too suggestive... but anyone with half a brain or a modicum of common sense/deductive reasoning can deduce exactly where things more than likely might be heading.
I'm just really wondering what the rational course of action should be. Flip the fuck out? I kind of am. I kind of really am.
Nothing TOO suggestive, mind you (nothing like "Let's go meet up and y'know"), but plenty of wink winks and "Hey, girl"s and flirty banter... and as a dude you know EXACTLY what the dude is trying to fandangle there. Even some talk about setting her up a special Hotmail account (that obviously her and I wouldn't be sharing, or I would supposed to be knowing about) so they could talk further over MSN Messenger. More on the matter... she knows I routinely check her E-mail (and tells me to) because it's the E-mail that we routinely receive pictures from our first child that we put up for adoption 4 years ago there. OK? Since the account is tied to her MySpace, anyone with MySpace knows you get little E-mails from MySpace every time someone sends you a message. So there's plenty of those in there, yes? From her galpals, all of them -- except for this one dude in question. Today I noticed she received two MySpace alerts about this dude sending her messages on MySpace, just some random name and I paid it no thought. Later on the same day... while I'm at work and she's at home, I notice these same message alerts have been skillfully deleted by her. From the trashbin, everything, the whole nine yards... which wouldn't be unusual, except for the fact that she hasn't and doesn't ever delete the message reminders from all of her other friends on MySpace.
You see the picture I'm painting? Nothing specifically cheaterish, nothing even too suggestive... but anyone with half a brain or a modicum of common sense/deductive reasoning can deduce exactly where things more than likely might be heading.
I'm just really wondering what the rational course of action should be. Flip the fuck out? I kind of am. I kind of really am.
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I guess confront her but not in a flip out ballistic kind of way
Posted 09-13-2008 at 04:41 AM by GreenLanternGeek -
Posted 09-13-2008 at 06:41 AM by W.West -
Posted 09-14-2008 at 04:47 AM by The_Mad_Dragon -
have you seen any of her messages to him? thats what you need because if you haven't then she could have read them and been like "god damn it this guy needs to quit this shit" and deleted them so she wouldn't get in trouble with you.
now if she was talking in the same manner then its time to confront her asap. If she's responsive awesome if not then keep an eye on herPosted 09-14-2008 at 03:21 PM by GLJIMT -
I'd kick his ass, but thats just me! but seriously, find out whats up, and how it goes. I've had that happen in the past. My ex went to new york on a trip to a convention, and i saw a letter a few weeks later from this guy saying how awesome the time was....I was pissed
Posted 10-22-2008 at 05:00 PM by Lishego -
Posted 10-22-2008 at 05:49 PM by Maverick_GL -
Posted 10-24-2008 at 02:50 AM by W.West -
Posted 10-24-2008 at 02:52 AM by Andrew NDB -
We broke up, this guy was from another part of the country, she denyed anything happened, but the suggestions this guy made were too much, even for good friends to say to each other, let alone a guy she just met.
Posted 10-24-2008 at 02:38 PM by Lishego -
thats good to hear andrew
Posted 10-24-2008 at 06:08 PM by GreenLanternGeek -
Posted 11-03-2008 at 05:42 AM by ComicGeek -
Posted 11-03-2008 at 07:58 AM by Maverick_GL -
Posted 12-14-2008 at 11:04 PM by Brother Eye -
Posted 01-14-2010 at 12:24 PM by The_Mad_Dragon -
Posted 01-14-2010 at 08:50 PM by Fearless -
Posted 01-14-2010 at 11:21 PM by The_Mad_Dragon -
Posted 01-16-2010 at 05:32 AM by The_Mad_Dragon -
Posted 01-16-2010 at 10:30 AM by W.West