The Picture Thread vol. 16

[havik Anti-Monitor Find all posts View Profile Close havik]

now i feel dumb. i was doing wrong math smh

[Jeff Guardian of the Universe Find all posts View Profile Close Jeff]

See, I don't think you can say you'd "go gay" for someone, then tack "no homo" on the end. That's pretty much "all the homo" by definition, I would think?

Maybe a gay person can help me out with this? Am I getting the "no homo" etiquette wrong?

EDIT: Come to think of it, I guess a gay person might not really be the most likely to be up on "no homo" etiquette, since it isn't a phrase they are likely to use.

See, I don't think it does negate ANYTHING. There are some things one says for which there is no "no homo" interpretation. I think "no homo" is supposed to be more for things where there is some doubt as to the interpretation of a statement.

So one could say, "Hugh Jackman is a mighty attractive man. No homo." This indicates that your expression of admiration for his appearance does not equate to a desire to have sexual relations with him.

It doesn't make any sense to come right out and SAY you would gladly have sex with someone of the same sex, and then tack on "no homo". The "homo" is right there in black and white in that instance.

That's like the grade schooler who thinks he can punch his sibling, then say "Just kidding!" and now it doesn't count. You already hit them, for Pete's sake! You can't be "just kidding" now.

I suppose you can keep telling yourself that.

However, I'm just letting you know that, for me (and I suspect a lot of people) the term loses its "power" when used after obviously, unambiguously homosexual statements or actions.

And since the whole POINT of the phrase is trying to influence what OTHER people think about what you just said, it matters less what YOU think it means than what others think it means.

If you don't care what others think, why bother adding the "no homo"?

Well, if you can't see the contradiction in "not caring what people think of you" and "not wanting to be called gay", I guess there's no point in me trying to explain it to you.

Tread lightly, Mr. Ed. You are using logic, intelligence, and deductive reasoning with Ionfan. That might get you on "the list."

[SocializingMogo Corps Honor Guard Find all posts View Profile Close SocializingMogo]

no homo and all but d@mn i'd go gay for that.................. just to be clear again no homo

Yes homo. Nothing wrong with that.

[Michael Heide Heide Finition Find all posts View Profile Close Michael Heide]

no homo and all but d@mn i'd go gay for that.................. just to be clear again no homo

I can't believe I'm rushing to IonFan's defense here, but:

If 'homo'= true then
gogayfor 'Jackman'

[Lantern A-train Guardian of the Universe Find all posts View Profile Close Lantern A-train]

Saying no homo before or after something or premising it with "I'm not gay but" just makes you look and sound like an idiot. We know you're not gay we dont need a fucking disclaimer. "No homo" just needs to be said by insecure straight boys. This is one thing straight women are better at than straight men. They have no problem complimenting or pointing out an attractive woman without having to say no homo or no lesbian. Heck even the gays are more secure than the straight boys who have to say this. No gay or lesbian people say "no hetero but that girl /guy is really hot/attractive". I point out attractive women all the time but I don't need to justify it with "no hetero" at the end of it.Any male that has to go out of their way to prove they are straight by putting a dumb ass disclaimer before of after they make a complimenting statement about a guy is a fucking insecure loser. Plain and simple.



Oh and by IF's logic that mean as long as I put no offense next to anything offensive I say about anyone it negates any and all offensive things said before it right?

[Michael Heide Heide Finition Find all posts View Profile Close Michael Heide]

I am absolutely no fan of the "no homo" phrase (or of IonFan), but the argument here seemed to be that you can't say "no homo, but I would fuck that dude".

[Mister Ed Horse of a Different Color Find all posts View Profile Close Mister Ed]

I am absolutely no fan of the "no homo" phrase (or of IonFan), but the argument here seemed to be that you can't say "no homo, but I would fuck that dude".

Yeah, that's it. It may be stupid and only used by insecure people, but the "no homo" phrase, as I understand it, is for removing any perceived ambiguity from a statement that someone thinks MIGHT be seen as expressing sexual desire for somebody of the same sex. "That guy is attractive, no homo."

It isn't (effectively, anyway) used paired with a statement that is unambiguously homosexual, as in your example.

[Space Cop The Dandy Find all posts View Profile Close Space Cop]

...Heck even the gays are more secure than the straight boys who have to say this. No gay or lesbian people say "no hetero but that girl /guy is really hot/attractive". I point out attractive women all the time but I don't need to justify it with "no hetero" at the end of it....

You should try that next time you're with a crowd of mixed sexuality just to see their reactions.

[Lantern A-train Guardian of the Universe Find all posts View Profile Close Lantern A-train]

While I understand what you are saying it seems, from my experience anyway, that the only people that feel the need to remove any perceived ambiguity is straight men.

[Space Cop The Dandy Find all posts View Profile Close Space Cop]

While I understand what you are saying it seems, from my experience anyway, that the only people that feel the need to remove any perceived ambiguity is straight men.

I agree. I can't think of a counter example (though admittedly I see it more online than in person--mind you, I don't get out much). That's exactly why it would be interesting to see (from a sociological test standpoint) how a group who doesn't feel the need to add such superfluous tags would react to one. My guess is that they would either bust on you for that or immediately get that you were mocking the "no homo" concept.

But, yeah, I could see not wanting to actually do it.

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for anyone looking for my reply(s) look no further then my post to Mr. Ed, for anyone else...........


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[Jeff Guardian of the Universe Find all posts View Profile Close Jeff]

Actually, just using the term "homo" in itself is derogatory and homophobic, regardless whether it's "no homo" or "yes homo". I tend to think of it as the equivalent of calling a German person a "Nazi" or an Italian person a "W.O.P." I can definitely see the word being used on a comfort level, though, maybe between two really really good friends who totally understand that it is 100% in jest, but coming from someone like IonFan, it's just more shit spewing out of his mouth.

[Lantern A-train Guardian of the Universe Find all posts View Profile Close Lantern A-train]

Meh the word doesn't bother me at all really. Then again I am different than most people as I rarely get offended because to me it's a waste of emotion, but again that's just me.

[Jeff Guardian of the Universe Find all posts View Profile Close Jeff]

Meh the word doesn't bother me at all really. Then again I am different than most people as I rarely get offended because to me it's a waste of emotion, but again that's just me.

Basically, I'm riding the same train with ya on that one. (haha.....see what I did there.....I made a joke about trains and your name has ....oh nevermind)

I do in fact have a gay friend that calls me homo and vice versa. Alternately, My boss and I joke about it all the time. We will be sitting in a dunkin donuts parking lot taking our break, and we see a really nice looking guy in a spazzy car pull in, and I'm like "DAMN, he's fine....I would take him in a heartbeat" and my boss is like "I would take that car in a heartbeat." Win Win. LOL