The Picture Thread vol. 16

[Lantern A-train Guardian of the Universe Find all posts View Profile Close Lantern A-train]

What I tell most straight men straight men in regards to that situation is to just take it as the compliment that it is. Simply state that you aren't gay but you do appreciate the compliment. I know some straight men that are happy to know that a gay guy finds them attractive and they know it doesn't mean that said gay man is gonna try and jump in their pants every five seconds. Funny enough I have also met some straight men that get all pissed off if they think you are checking them out or think that you think they are attractive yet when you tell them that you weren't or you don't think that they also get pissed off or offended. It's like make a fucking decision dude.

The big problem with that situation is that, unlike women who can compliment each other on their attractiveness with no problem and not be labeled gay or have any issues, there is still the stigma among straight men that complimenting another man on his looks somehow automatically makes you gay. Hence the apparent need for the insecure straight boys to add the disclaimer "no homo" or "I'm not gay but..."


Perhaps we should move this to the gay thread as to not derail The Picture Thread.

[TazzMission Guardian of the Universe Find all posts View Profile Close TazzMission]

What I tell most straight men straight men in regards to that situation is to just take it as the compliment that it is. Simply state that you aren't gay but you do appreciate the compliment. I know some straight men that are happy to know that a gay guy finds them attractive and they know it doesn't mean that said gay man is gonna try and jump in their pants every five seconds. Funny enough I have also met some straight men that get all pissed off if they think you are checking them out or think that you think they are attractive yet when you tell them that you weren't or you don't think that they also get pissed off or offended. It's like make a fucking decision dude.

The big problem with that situation is that, unlike women who can compliment each other on their attractiveness with no problem and not be labeled gay or have any issues, there is still the stigma among straight men that complimenting another man on his looks somehow automatically makes you gay. Hence the apparent need for the insecure straight boys to add the disclaimer "no homo" or "I'm not gay but..."


Perhaps we should move this to the gay thread as to not derail The Picture Thread.

man do i got some stories to tell you lol

[Tazer That Evil, Yellow Bastiche Find all posts View Profile Close Tazer]

Yo.

That's like being proud of inheriting your parents' lottery wealth. What's the point? It's nothing you have actively chosen, acquired or built, you get no challenges or difficulties because of it, and if anything, you're ridiculing people on the other side of the fence.
And if you transfer this exact same thing to a different majority/minority scenario (white pride, proud of not being handicapped), it gets ugly really fast.
It's a "neener neener neener" chant in jpg form. And the text on the side painting yourself as the victim of intolerance is just idiotic.

I see where yur coming from & I mostly agree with yur point, but playing devils advocate I dont see why we cant have situations where ppl who're in the majority of a societal makeup (like straight ppl) be proud of who they are like any1 else.

I'll agree that it IS odd to see something like this, I also recognize that just like we have things which attempt to promote and celebrate those of different sexual leanings (or however U want to put it), I dont see any reason why we cant do the same for those who make up the majority (as long as we're not viewing every1 else as *them*, if U catch my drift?)

I think the pride in terms of both racial and sexual orientation minorities is the struggles both have had to go through in their life. It is interesting to see how people treat the friends you have who are gay or of a different race. If you pay attention, you can see that even the little things are obvious.

see, now the weird thing (and this is just my own opinion, not based on hard facts) about MOST ppl who come from a racial or sexual divergence dont suffer from an extensive amount of intolerance; not saying it never happens to most OR to minimize anything that any1 here has ever had to go thru in their own personal lives, but most of them (and I can put myself in this category) go thru their lives generally unscathed. yea, we do have those who see alot of intolerance & hatred, and yes we do have ppl who end up losing their lives over that bullshit, but I honestly dont believe ALL of us who arent within the societal majority suffer greatly for being apart from it.

does this mean we dont have struggles, no, not at all. but becuz WE have struggles doesnt mean THEY (the norm) dont, and tbqh Ive seen & heard instances where the majority get hit with verbal indignities & accusations just becuz they stand up for themselves, as if they arent supposed to becuz theyre "male" or "white" or "straight".

acceptance for 1 should be acceptance for all, but some tend to forget that.




Tazer

[Lantern A-train Guardian of the Universe Find all posts View Profile Close Lantern A-train]

Tazer I agree with all of that.

[Mister Ed Horse of a Different Color Find all posts View Profile Close Mister Ed]

Well, in terms of the "pride" aspect of it, there's one story that happened to me in high school that made me look at racism in a whole different light. And it's stories like this which help me to understand how someone could feel pride for being a minority. Especially when having to deal with bullshit on a constant basis from external forces.

It was senior year in high school, and I was on the yearbook staff. Which was basically used as time to run around the school and bullshit with my friends. I was running around with one such friend, who's black, when we were stopped by a teacher in the hallway. Now, we were both in the hallway, neither of us had hall passes. We're standing right next to each other, and the teacher immediately begins to berate and question my friend. Doesn't pay attention to me in the slightest. We both try to reason with him, but he ends up taking my friend to the principal's office. I guess in the office, my friend ended up cussing the teacher and principal out, and got suspended. So there was no defense I could help him with. It might not seem like much, but that occurrence changed how I viewed race relations. Literally, nothing was different about us besides the color of our skin. We were even dressed similarly because of the school's dress code. Only, I ended up being able to just go about my business in the hallway and my friend had to go to the principal's office and ended up suspended.

So imagine that happening to you, but having it happen on a constant basis. There was another time I was with black friends of mine, and I couldn't tell you how weird it was when we'd see people cross the street when we would come up on them. Not in a menacing way, just simply walking down the street. So I can see how they would have pride, for having to put up with that. The same for gay people as well.

Well, I might take pride if I felt I displayed grace under that kind of unfair pressure. If he's reacting to it by cussing out the teacher and the principal, that, while totally UNDERSTANDABLE, especially if that sort of thing is happening all the time, is not exactly something that I would take pride in. Like it says in the Bible (loosely paraphrased ), if you do the right thing, and people give you crap for it, that's admirable. If you give them REASONS to give you crap, not so much.

When I was in Middle School, pretty much everybody decided I was gay. I had people mocking me fairly constantly, I had people following me through the halls to do this, doing random crap like throwing a bunch of mouthwash on me. Telling them they were wrong made no difference. Really nothing did. I was never beat up or anything like that, just harassment, so it could easily have been worse. I guess in a way, I'm proud that I managed to make it through that time in as good shape as I did (but there were definitely times in there that I'm not proud of, like the couple times I decided to just turn around and take a swing at the nearest jerk). So I guess I can understand the notion of taking pride in bearing up under scorn.

They eventually decided I wasn't gay (or at least stopped mentioning it) when I got to High School. Not sure why, maybe they just grew up. I did grow a full beard Freshman year, which seemed to impress some of them. Maybe they thought a beard was too manly for a gay kid?

[Mister Ed Horse of a Different Color Find all posts View Profile Close Mister Ed]

Perhaps we should move this to the gay thread as to not derail The Picture Thread.

Ha! Wish I had read this line before my latest wall of text. Sorry!

[Lantern A-train Guardian of the Universe Find all posts View Profile Close Lantern A-train]

haha no worries. Im gonna quote it and move it.

[Lantern A-train Guardian of the Universe Find all posts View Profile Close Lantern A-train]

Now continuing in The Gay Thread

[Dr. Naysay Guardian of the Universe Find all posts View Profile Close Dr. Naysay]

Thank you. I lurk this thread for pictures not to see a you nerdlingers pontificate about nonsense.

EDIT : Oh and here's a picture so as to minimize my hypocrisy

[Mister Ed Horse of a Different Color Find all posts View Profile Close Mister Ed]

You can go back to lurking now.

[Dr. Naysay Guardian of the Universe Find all posts View Profile Close Dr. Naysay]

You can go back to lurking now.

[TazzMission Guardian of the Universe Find all posts View Profile Close TazzMission]

[TazzMission Guardian of the Universe Find all posts View Profile Close TazzMission]

[Tazer That Evil, Yellow Bastiche Find all posts View Profile Close Tazer]

Yo.






Tazer

[Space Cop The Dandy Find all posts View Profile Close Space Cop]

And ironically, all of their girlfriends are threatened at some point in the movies.