Do women love men who are jerks?

[Agent Purple The Illustrated Man Find all posts View Profile Close Agent Purple]

Women love men who are jerks?

points to his mother's first marriage, his older sister's ex-husband, and his former coworker's ex-husband

My mom's older sister married a man with serious problems, and on numerous occasions left him. The only reason she went back to him is because he broke down and begged each time, and over all their years together things have vastly improved. He was not a jerk for very long.

My mother's first husband was a nice guy, but once his thyroid went bad, so did he. She could hardly bring herself to love him after that, at most feeling fear, confusion, and in ever-increasing amounts and especially today, pity. She left him long before he died.

My older sister left her husband, because he revealed just how much of an unrelenting monster he really is, and she is never going back.

My former coworker loved her husband, and gave him the benefit of the doubt when he was discovered to have cheated on her (he has a genetic ailment that affects hormones, which affects his thinking and emotions sometimes). But when he didn't stop, and vastly increased his errant behavior, she dropped him like a rock and found a far better man.

Women do not love men who are jerks. The ones who say they do say so out of fear and a lack of understanding as to what love really is. Love does not make you stay with or even go near someone who is a complete bastard.

[Jeff Guardian of the Universe Find all posts View Profile Close Jeff]

I think I'm just going to go with the humanitarian obvious here- some women love jerks, some don't. It can't be an "all" or "nothing" type of thing. The same can be said of men loving bitches as well.

[Big Daddy Dave Skywalker Moisture Farmer Find all posts View Profile Close Big Daddy Dave Skywalker]

For every man who is an asshole, there is a woman who is crazy.

[Fearless Agent Orange Find all posts View Profile Close Fearless]

I'm posting one comment and then leaving this thread forever.

About a year and a half ago, one my English professors (Brother to actor Neal McDonough. Great guy, kinda scary) told us an anecdote from his own life. He said he asked a woman why she was with the man she was with, who was, in his summation, "an asshole." The woman replied, by his account quite simply, "He's my kind of asshole."

Now, whether that relates to personal preference or if it's a dictation on how she was raised and what kind of man she was drawn to, I couldn't say. Neither could he, by the sound of it. So, I guess the point is some things just are the way they are and there's no real way around it.

Okay, I'm done. ...Maybe this was totally pointless?

[Rotten2thecorps Alpha-Lantern Find all posts View Profile Close Rotten2thecorps]

I have come to peace with it. The women around these parts definatlliey jerks. They put a nicer spin on it and say they like "The Bad Boys". Well that's cool,as long as you own it. When the bad boy treats you badly,don't sit there and say things like nice guys with a good sense of humor. Cause ya don't.

[IonFan Forum Member Find all posts View Profile Close IonFan]

well i'm a nice guy and i keep getting sh!t on by women (and no that's not what i mean you sickos ) so............ yeah i vote yes


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[Bob Sachs Voice of Guy Gardner Find all posts View Profile Close Bob Sachs]

Yes. They do. It's why I'm a double agent. Hehe.


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[Space Cop The Dandy Find all posts View Profile Close Space Cop]

well i'm a nice guy and i keep getting sh!t on by women (and no that's not what i mean you sickos ) so............ yeah i vote yes

See, I think that's where a lot of that comes from, but you do realize it's a non-sequitor, right? You may as well say "I wear t-shirts, women don't like me; therefore women like men in suits."

Anyway, I could not say that it's true overall that women prefer jerks. A bunch of you have sited cases you know of that qualify, but really out of all of the couples you know, how many of them qualify. If you know 50 couples can you honestly say that in 26 or more of them the guys are jerks and the women swoon over them?

[IonFan Forum Member Find all posts View Profile Close IonFan]

therefore women like men in suits.

please we all know that's true, so much so they made a song about it

[Space Cop The Dandy Find all posts View Profile Close Space Cop]

please we all know that's true, so much so they made a song about it

I wear three-piece suits pretty often. Hasn't really helped me. Then again, I do get comments from women, they're just not in my key demographic let's say.

EDIT: you also have an amazing ability to reply to a post and completely avoid the point.
Let me put it this way: your reason is as spurious as if you said "Women reject me. I have hair. Therefore women must prefer bald guys."

[Trey Strain Guardian of the Universe Find all posts View Profile Close Trey Strain]

Women like good guys, but only after they've served as baby mamas to three different jerks who don't pay them any child support. Then suddenly they start trying to pull the good guys out of the friend zone.

[IonFan Forum Member Find all posts View Profile Close IonFan]

EDIT: you also have an amazing ability to reply to a post and completely avoid the point.

thanks, i do try

[Mister Ed Horse of a Different Color Find all posts View Profile Close Mister Ed]

Women like good guys, but only after they've served as baby mamas to three different jerks who don't pay them any child support.

Wow, I had no idea that was the experience of the majority of women. Guess I'm just ignorant.

[plastroncafe Alpha-Lantern Find all posts View Profile Close plastroncafe]

We need a female to voice an opinion.

You rang?

There´s a difference between a "nice guy" (spineless doormat who thinks that by being nice and do things for girls entitles him to sex/affection) and a nice guys who´s pleasant to be around.

Don't ever be a nice guy. Ever. Don't. Just don't.
Be a good guy. Always.

Nice guys think that pretending to be a decent human will be rewarded with sex from the woman of their choosing.

Good guys are just decent human beings for the sake of being decent human beings. Those are the guys who get laid, because they're not whiny tittybaby manchildren.

NO one wants to be around a manchild, let alone sleep with one, regardless of what Seth Rogan movies may have lead you to believe.

Be confident with yourself. Give a crap about yourself. Or at least fake it until you make it in that regard. It's no woman/man/partner's job to provide you with self respect.

[Sylent_Asassin Black Lantern Find all posts View Profile Close Sylent_Asassin]

One thing I never understood- I used to work with a guy years ago who was known as a womanizer. He treated women like crap and cheated on them constantly, yet there always seemed to be a line of girls willing to take the chance. If he had a dating (or banging) resume, it would have three pages full of, well, conquests. He wasn't a great-looking guy, didn't have a beach body and wasn't the best educated. One of the girls he slept with said he had a little unit after being scorn. He was supremely confident, though, and being turned down didn't phase him in the slightest. What would make women want this guy?