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[plastroncafe Alpha-Lantern Find all posts View Profile Close plastroncafe]

Cripes. Wow, how did I miss that? Good catch, Doc.

Bolerthon, it's true. If you can't trust the unwashed masses of the internet to give you uncensored and tactless advice...who can you trust?

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To be fair...I hope to God you don't actually take that seriously and don't expect any of us too either.

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My girlfriend Louise found out she is pregnant last thursday. She went in for a dental operation and they said everything wasn't quite right. One scan later and she is with child.

She is not only pregnant, she is 8 months pregnant. She hasn't grown at all, actually lost weight, was on the pill the whole time and has still been having her monthly visit for the last 8 months. At this stage it's illegal to get rid of it and they won't let her pick whether to keep it or not until after the birth.

Louise has done the maths on this one and she is 99% sure this kid isn't mine but that of her previous fella, who upon being told made it abundantly clear he wants nothing to do with it. I love this girl so I'm not going anywhere but holy fuck did this one sneak up on me.

So yeah....

Damn, brotha'! This is fookin' crazy! Although, tip of the hat for considering sticking with her.

I had a neighbor a few years ago. She lived right next door and buddies she was smokin'! She had Batgirl's smile from TAS...oh, yeah.
I wanted to ask her out, we were friends that spoke casually, but she had a little kid. I was scared basically, to influence a young mind...to be there everyday. Remember we lived next door to each other and I live in a building...our doors were like "L" - right next to each other! At the time I was a hard partyer, so it's probably for the best. Still, though, next time I'm in a situation like that I hope to be strong enough to pursue my heart.

Y'know what I was also fearing? Hearing "you're not my real dad..." Phuck! I'd probably poop my pants and start cryin' on the spot. Wow, that must suck.

So, I commend you for considering stepping up and loving them both.

OK... since it doesn't look like anybody else will say it...



I don't care how much you think you love her.... that's NOT your kid and you don't owe this chick a damn thing.

You're 22 right? You tell her that you're really sorry that life tossed her this curveball and you WALK!

Don't be stupid.

It's stoopid, more on.
Was that funny, I'm thinking of trying the stand-up comedy thing. Seriously! *sigh* I'm bored.

I hope you don't think you owe her anything either, because to me that doesn't sound like a good thing. If I were going to do something like this, it would be because I love her truly and deeply...and was ready to spend endless nights awake because of the baby crying.

EDIT : Also....

Oh, dude! This is so messed up...

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Two reasons...

One : You're 22. You don't know how long you're going to be with this chick and from the sound of it you've only been with her for a short period of time. You have no idea who you are yet much less who she is. All of that wouldn't matter EXCEPT... that once she has the kid it's only going to get exponentially harder to break up with her the older the kid gets. You think it's hard leaving a woman who's pregnant with someone else's kid? Try leaving her when the kid is 2 years old and thinks you're "Dad". Unless you know for a fact that she's "The One" (and you can't know that) then you need to walk.

Two : Something about this whole thing doesn't ad up and stinks to high hell.

This.

Yoda says: "Careful you must be..."

I'm not saying it's impossible... BUT....

A chick not knowing she's 8 months pregnant who lost weight and still has her period?

That's the kind of shit that winds up on House.

EDIT : To be clear... I'm not a doctor and have no idea what I'm talking about... the whole thing is just very suspicious....

Yeah, if you're going to stick around and be the pop you should brace yourself for the worst possible outcome. I'm not a doctor, but I play one on tv... so I know what I'm talking about.

But pregnant and taking anti-pregnancy pills, not showing and not even knowing? This poor kid might be born with HDD or something worse. Don't mean to rain on the parade, but this is too scary to just not bring it up.

I'd say be careful sir.
I know you probably care for this girl a whole lot but if you guys haven't been together for even a year yet you don't want to get yourself tied down.
I'm not saying break things off and kick her to the curb but this is NOT a normal situation so it will not have a clear cut situation to it.

If you make the decision to stay and help her take care of the baby you are taking upon the responsibility to raise the child and be his/her father and possibly marry this girl.

Just look at the whole picture and don't get confused with "What an honorable knight in shining armor would do" and "Whats best for the two of you".

Getting attached to this baby and things not working out between the 2 of you can cause harm to EVERYONE involved.

Just don't force things.

This sounds good too, make 1000% sure she's the one. If this little tyke gets old enough to call you daddy and then you leave her...it won't be very comfortable...for the kid more than anyone. And really isn't that all that will end up mattering in the end?

he needss his porn from somewhere johnny and figureed it's saafer to peep into a window then to download it onto his windows

I hate when they do that!

Is that even legal?...

I hope not, 'cause I look at some raunchy sh...

...I've spent a lot of money across three states trying to keep my daughter in my life, only to discover that without DNA my legal rights to her and my obligations are extremely limited.

Damn, that bleedin' sucks. How's that working for you now? I'd be so heart broken mom said, stay away. Sorry for your troubles.

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Damn, that bleedin' sucks. How's that working for you now? I'd be so heart broken mom said, stay away. Sorry for your troubles.

Yeah, it really did tear me up. But it was 8 years ago, and I tried my best. Got the court rulings to prove it, if she ever comes to find me. Not that she has anything more then a birth certificate to go by.

But like I said, even barring the heart break of losing her, the time I had with her was amazingly special and once I kind of made peace with what happened, inspired me to settle down.

On my side the story has a happy ending, even if she never comes and finds me.

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I hope to God you don't actually take that seriously and don't expect any of us too either.

Please, call me Your Holiness


At any rate Bole, I strongly advise you and your partner sitting down and trying to work out a game plan, order a pizza and spend an evening or two on it, talk through every option available to you, even if you might not want to discuss them, hearing things out loud is tons better than dancing around the issue

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We have a baby girl. Her name is Olivia.

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We have a baby girl. Her name is Olivia.

Congratulations!

Nice name. Is it a family one or did you just like it?

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Congrats! Now life as you knew it is over, for better or worse. You get to be the judge of that.

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congrats hope she is healthy and that good jazz

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Welcome to long nights with no sleep, no sex, and plenty of crying and shitty nappies.

[Bolerathon Avant Guardian Find all posts View Profile Close Bolerathon]

Congratulations!

Nice name. Is it a family one or did you just like it?

We just liked it.

She's beautiful.

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congrats to the neww proud papa.... yes i know what has been said in the thread but your in the role now

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Congratulations! What a lovely name, too!